Avoiding The Snarl

From 'Cool Hand Luke'. Which has nothing to do with this post. I went to a workshop for parents of autistic children and did something you’re not supposed to do. I asked the other parents sitting around the circle in that church basement how many of them thought they had characteristics similar to those of their kids.  The workshop leader glared at me. We’re not supposed to presume any sort of genetic disposition toward autism. I wasn’t trying to make trouble. But I do see some stuff in my boy that I see in myself. For instance, I tend to be pretty literal –– when my ex wife texts me, for instance, that she plans to drop off the cool hat I bought my son the next day, I assume that she intends to drop off the hat the next day. This gets me in trouble because apparently, anybody can see that what she really meant was that I could get the hat from her the next time I picked up the kids from her house.  My boy suffers from the same rigid thinking and in him i...

Sure, you know your kid better than anybody. But that doesn't mean other people don't know your kid at all. And guess what. Some of us have gone through what you're about to go through. And what you're about to put your kid through. I'm not saying don't move. That would be stupid. I am, after all, a real estate agent. What I am saying, though, is before you launch yourself into a situation that's going to be stressful on you, take some time to figure out how to mitigate the stress on your kid. Talk to your kid's therapist, paras, and teachers.  Then talk to me. You can reach me at 310-854-2458 or by email at brian (at) belefant (dot) realtor. By the way, if you're looking for online counseling, check out Better Help .